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12 Days of Christmas - Day 11: Piper piping
Navigating your independence after a divorce or a separation is such a difficult concept for so many people, especially if they have become used to following their own ‘pied piper’ during a relationship.
You may not have realised it at the time, but when you’ve been with your partner for so many years, you can often lose your own identity and slowly change your lifestyle to fit in with theirs. It’s only when the relationship breaks down that you may come to realise that you’ve been constantly seeking your partner’s guidance or approval for so much of what you do. Their opinion has mattered so much to you that you’ve lived your life around it and lost a part of ‘you’.
When a relationship ends, your ex-partner’s opinion won’t matter any longer, you don’t need their approval and you can ignore the criticism. Do what you want to do - as long as it’s legal.
This is an ideal opportunity to find your freedom and embrace your single status. You can make new friends, find a new hobby, join a gym, change your job, volunteer.
You can sing your own tune and let the pipers play elsewhere.
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Matt works with individuals and their families to help them negotiate the many pitfalls they can encounter when planning for their future by providing pragmatic, bespoke advice.
